I don’t think you are the problem. I aspire to the Haskell Discourse being a place in charactertised by mutual respect, not by harshness. Respect does not mean agreement – you can disagree pretty vigorously with someone while still making it clear that you genuinely respect their position. But there is no place in our conversations for language that makes people feel attacked or belittled, still less driven out.
So I too will be sorry to see you go, both becasue we will lack your voice, but also for what it says about the quality of our dialogue. Let’s do better!